Adversity is like the wind.
At times there is calm, other times a breeze and sometimes a gust.
When life gets busy we often forget to stop to appreciate the peace and joy. So, when a hook is thrown in to stop us in our tracks what a shock it can be. Whether it be a family members illness, a death of a friend, a car accident, money troubles or something else. In life no matter how good a person we are, there will always be adversity.
A few summers ago while traveling with my children to New Jersey for a fun family get together we were in a car accident. Our car was damaged and so were our plans. Shaken and sad we returned home deflated that our vacation was not to be.
To be completely honest, I didn’t handle the accident well. I sunk into a deep depression. The anger that I felt was completely overwhelming. I blamed myself for everything that had gone wrong. How had I let my car get out of my control? Why did I let my children see me break down?. Why couldn’t I be more in control of things? I had ruined a vacation my kids had been looking forward to and I felt like I had failed in all aspects.
Through looking back on that experience and many others in my life, I have learned that adversity will come throughout life. How we deal with it is what truly matters. One of my favorite quotes is by Thomas S. Monson, “We can’t direct the wind but we can adjust the sails.” Meaning we may not be able to control adversity but we can choose how we react to it.
Another favorite quote is by Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Often the deep valleys of our present will be understood only by looking back on them from the mountains of our future experience. Often we can’t see the Lord’s hand in our lives until long after trials have passed. Often the most difficult times of our lives are essential building blocks that form the foundation of our character and pave the way to future opportunity, understanding, and happiness.”
It is true that when we are in the midst of a trial we often don’t understand why we are going through it. However, trials are what makes us who we are. They mold us and change us into the people we become.
I am grateful for the trials that I personally have had to face. While not all were not particularly enjoyable to experience, they made me who I am today.